Tell me more
by David Hachmeister
Owner, Care & Comfort at Home
The recent death of a close family member has left me, among many other things, wanting more.
When a close family member dies you realize many things you wish you had asked and how many more times you wish you could have told them how much you love them. Although she was (we think) 97, it always seemed like there another time to ask and to learn more about what made her who she was. We all wanted more of what her childhood was like, her schooling, her friends, and her dreams.
Beyond that depth lie these four expressions: I love you. I forgive you. Am I forgiven? And, finally, thank you. I have heard these themes many times in different forms. If you dare bring them up, the responses might surprise you. The end of life can yield exceptional perspectives.
We at Care and Comfort at Home for Seniors and Veterans work diligently to keep these loved ones at home, so they have their possessions and the memories tied to them close at hand to help their recollection of more details. These familiar surroundings are such a great comfort, both for the elderly and their kin.
If you are courageous, ask questions, and then ask God for the wisdom to understand what the answers mean.